How to Get Connected with Black Women
Having a sisterhood amongst Black women is one of the best things we can do for ourselves! It is a powerful tool to be used in our daily lives.
As Black women, we are prejudged based on the intersectionality (coined by Kimberlé Crenshaw) of our beings. Being woman and Black, we already have two “strikes” against us. In result, we are oftentimes left to fend for ourselves. We are taught at an early age “to be strong”. To hold ourselves to a higher esteem than our white counterparts. We learn to be self-reliant and independent. I am not saying that these are bad qualities to have. But, what do we do when we can no longer withstand the responsibility? Who can we rely on if we feel if no one is for us?
The answer, simply, is us.
To heal the hurts in our heart, and calm our pain, we must unite. Often times, we see each other as competition—and not in the best way. Instead, we should see our fellow Black women as confidantes, allies, mentors…sisters. We all we got, right?
You may be asking yourself, “Well, how can we come together? We’re not all alike.” And that’s the beauty of it all. Black women come in all sizes, shapes, colors, and personalities. It is those differences that bring us close. We all have our unique journeys and pathways that crosses each other’s paths. We are all here to teach, uplift and love one another.
Here are some ways that you can connect with more like-minded Black women. Start or join a Facebook Group. This is one of my favorite ways to connect with other Black women. There are thousands to choose from! Or you can follow hashtags and other accounts on Instagram.
Don’t be afraid to reach out, sis!
Another way to connect with more Black women (BW) is to find a mentor or mentors! You are never too old to learn from someone.
Your mentor could be a professor at your college/university. A current or former manager, or someone your senior, at your job.
If you are a more introverted or shy person, consider apps or websites to connect you with other people. In contrast, if you are more outgoing, try talking to people at networking events. If you are really about it, try talking to a random person. I have made so many friends just by talking with random people. As an example, I once connected with a BW by complimenting her hair and makeup. Ultimately, we exchanged numbers and she connected me to her hairstylist.
(Disclaimer: You do not have to befriend every BW you come into contact with.)
Furthermore, you can connect with women by joining a book club, fitness club, host, or attend an event, go to networking fairs, etc. If you are a college student, this may be a bit easier. There are usually 100s of clubs and sports teams you can join on your campus. Go to different events hosted by different organizations. Visit the org’s meetings to get a feel for the people!
Once you have found your people on campus, college gets a lot easier!
The point is, we need to focus more on uplifting each other instead of tearing down the next woman. We need to be role models for the generations of girls to come after us. Show them the true meaning of sisterhood. We have to show them that it is okay to not have a rivalry against other women. That it is okay to unite with other BW for a greater cause.
Finally, I think a way to stimulate sisterhood in the Black community is to encourage vulnerability. How can you let someone in without opening up? We tend to think that we have to be strong all of the time, and that is simply not true. It is okay to not present yourself as “strong” every day. It is okay to not be okay. Knowing that your sisters have your back and only want what’s best for you is perfectly fine.